Category Archives: Discrimination

பெற்ற அன்னையுடன் கள்ள உறவு, மனவி புகார் ! மனைவிக்கு ஜீவனாம்சம். அபாணட புகார்களை கோர்ட்டு வன்மையாய் கண்ண்டிக்கிறது !!

பெற்ற அன்னையுடன் கள்ள உறவு, மனவி புகார் ! மனைவிக்கு ஜீவனாம்சம்.

அபாணட புகார்களை கோர்ட்டு வன்மையாய் கண்ண்டிக்கிறது !!

தன் கணவன், அவனை பெற்ற அன்னையுடனேயே கள்ள உடல் உறவு வைத்திருந்ததாய் ஒரு பெண் புகார் கொடுத்து இருக்கிறார்.அத்துடன், தனது மாமனாரும் கள்ள உறவுடன் வாழ்வதாய் புகார் கொடுத்து இருக்கிறாள்…..

விவாகரத்து கிடைத்த பின்னும் அதை எதிர்த்து உயர் நீதி மன்றத்தில் அப்பீல் செய்துள்ளாள்

உண்மை சம்பவம் …

முருகுசெல்வத்துக்கும் ந்ர்மலாவுக்கும் 1999ல் திருமணம் நடந்தது. 2000 ஆண்டு ஒரு குழந்தையும் பிறந்தது. மனைவியின் வசைமொழியையும் கொடுமையும் தாங்காது 2002ல் குடும்ப நல நீதி மன்றத்தில் முருகுசெல்வம் விவாகரத்து வழக்கு தொடுத்தார். அவரது வாதத்தை ஏற்று, அவருக்கு சென்னை முதலாம் கூடுதல் குடும்ப நல நீதி மன்றம் மே மாதம் 2008ல் விவாகரத்து வழங்கியது .

அந்த தீர்ப்பில் கூறப்பட்டதாவது

– தனது கணவன் மீது அருவருக்கத்தக்கதும் அபாண்டமானதுமான புகார்களை மனவி சுமத்தி இருக்கிறார்.

– அத்தோடு அந்த புகார்களை அவரால் (மனைவியால்) நிரூபிக்க முடியவில்லை.

– இவை யாவும் கணவன் மீது மனைவி இழைத்த பெரும் கொடுமையாகும். ஆகவே விவாகரத்து வழங்கப்படுகிறது என்று சொல்லப்பட்டது …..

இதை எதிர்த்து நிர்மலா உயர் நீதி மன்றத்தில் அப்பீல் செய்துள்ளார். அந்த வழக்கை ஏற்று தீர்ப்பளித்த சென்னை உயர் ந்-தி மன்றம் நிர்மலாவின் (மனைவியின்) செயலை வன்மையக கண்டித்துள்ளது

செய்தி கீழே

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Court slams woman for alleging hubby intimate with mom

A Subramani, TNN Mar 12, 2012, 07.07AM IST

CHENNAI: A woman,wholevels an unsubstantiated “disgusting accusation” that her husband had an illicit relationship with his own mother, cannot seek cancellation of divorce, as her allegations amount to cruelty, the Madras high court has said.

A division bench of Justice Elipe Dharma Rao and Justice M Venugopal, dismissing the appeal of P Nirmala recently, said : “The disgusting accusation made by the wife that the husband is having an illicit relationship with his mother, and further accused her father-in-law of leading an adulterous life, are nothing but a serious assault on the character, honour, reputation and status of not only her husband but also her father-inlaw.”

As for her appeal against thefamily courtorder granting divorce to her husband, the judges said : “Not proving such allegations against them, but yet resisting divorce proceedings would mean a resolve to live in mental turmoil only to make the life miserable to both parties.”

K Muruguselvam married Nirmala in October 1999 and they had a girl child in October 2000. In 2002, he moved the family court seeking divorce on the grounds of cruelty.In May 2008, the additional family court-I here granted him divorce after recording the fact that she had “seriously alleged that her husband was having illicit intimacy with his own mother and that her father-in-law led an adulterous life”. Noting that the unproved allegations amounted to cruelty to Muruguselvam, he granted divorce on the ground of cruelty. The present appeal was preferred by Nirmala.

Dismissing the appeal, the bench said Nirmala had not substantiated her allegations against her husband andfather-in-law andthat the family court had “rightly weighed and assessed the oral and documentary evidence available on record in a proper manner and has come to the right conclusion that the wife has committed an act of cruelty …Itwarrants nointerference in thehandsof thiscourt.”

As for the maintenance, the bench directed the husband to pay Rs 750 each as monthly maintenance to the wife and daughter, besides Rs 1 lakh each as permanent maintenance as full and final settlement “keeping in mind equity, fair play and goodconscienc

Source

http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2012-03-12/chennai/31152530_1_cruelty-divorce-allegations

Court slams woman for alleging hubby intimate with mom

Court slams woman for alleging hubby intimate with mom

A Subramani, TNN Mar 12, 2012, 07.07AM IST
 

CHENNAI: A woman,wholevels an unsubstantiated “disgusting accusation” that her husband had an illicit relationship with his own mother, cannot seek cancellation of divorce, as her allegations amount to cruelty, the Madras high court has said.

A division bench of Justice Elipe Dharma Rao and Justice M Venugopal, dismissing the appeal of P Nirmala recently, said : “The disgusting accusation made by the wife that the husband is having an illicit relationship with his mother, and further accused her father-in-law of leading an adulterous life, are nothing but a serious assault on the character, honour, reputation and status of not only her husband but also her father-inlaw.”

As for her appeal against the family court order granting divorce to her husband, the judges said : “Not proving such allegations against them, but yet resisting divorce proceedings would mean a resolve to live in mental turmoil only to make the life miserable to both parties.”

K Muruguselvam married Nirmala in October 1999 and they had a girl child in October 2000. In 2002, he moved the family court seeking divorce on the grounds of cruelty.In May 2008, the additional family court-I here granted him divorce after recording the fact that she had “seriously alleged that her husband was having illicit intimacy with his own mother and that her father-in-law led an adulterous life”. Noting that the unproved allegations amounted to cruelty to Muruguselvam, he granted divorce on the ground of cruelty. The present appeal was preferred by Nirmala.

Dismissing the appeal, the bench said Nirmala had not substantiated her allegations against her husband andfather-in-law andthat the family court had “rightly weighed and assessed the oral and documentary evidence available on record in a proper manner and has come to the right conclusion that the wife has committed an act of cruelty …Itwarrants nointerference in thehandsof thiscourt.”

As for the maintenance, the bench directed the husband to pay Rs 750 each as monthly maintenance to the wife and daughter, besides Rs 1 lakh each as permanent maintenance as full and final settlement “keeping in mind equity, fair play and good conscience”.

Source :

http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2012-03-12/chennai/31152530_1_cruelty-divorce-allegations

Anthony Permal on being a Pakistani Christian

Comment By Anthony Permal

Anthony Permal on being a Pakistani Christian

   

No, Pakistan

 
 
 


A great deal has been written about minorities by many people both within and outside Pakistan. It is unfortunate that we are now a buzzword in the news and in ‘chai-shop’ conversations for infamy and not grace.

Better writers, journalists and bloggers have highlighted the martyrdom of those courageous souls Salmaan Taseer & Shahbaz Bhatti, and my words are poor compared to the greatness of their own, so I will refrain from continuing on this thread, save saying God bless you, Mr. Taseer and Mr. Bhatti. We are poorer as a country without you.

Instead, I want to focus today on a lesser known aspect of Christian minorities in Pakistan: the non-stereotypes.

In 1994, I read an article in Dawn newspaper about the murder of a Christian Pakistani. The accompanying photograph had the following caption, which I quote verbatim, as I have never been able to get these words out of my mind: ‘the victim was a sweeper (Christian)’. Complete with parenthesis.

Today, similar to that morning 17 years ago, I still find it insulting that the only recognizable stereotype of the Christian minority being propagated by media both in and out of Pakistan is of the Punjabi-speaking, downtrodden, poor sweeper or ‘jamaadar’. In a BBC report yesterday, a reporter from the UK did a voiceover in the accompanying vodcast speaking about how Christians usually take up jobs cleaning Pakistan’s streets. The vodcast itself showed barefooted, trash-filled wheel-barrow pushing old women and slum-dwelling men.

Don’t get me wrong, these people ARE included in the many Christian communities of Pakistan. But aren’t we insulting the many other Christians out there who suffer discrimination and violence in other circles of life? PR professionals, engineers, bankers, trades-men, doctors, teachers, scientists, even those of us in the armed forces ought to be counted among the ‘minority’ which has suffered daily since the time of Zia’s reign.

In asking our opinions on the discrimination we face, how many reporters have spoken to the English, Sindhi and Konkani speaking Christians of Pakistan? Where in the media has the discrimination faced in the corridors of industry by Christians been documented? Remember, my friends, there is a world out there that is not downtrodden but no less violated. This discrimination is not one practiced by the so-called jaahil awaam, but by the self-proclaimed liberals and religious elite who should know better. What kind of discrimination, you ask?

I have seen Christian doctors in hospitals being refused by patients because of the doctor’s faith. I have seen a passport officer throw Christians’ and even Ahmadis’ passports across the floor. I have witnessed teachers being overlooked for promotions and told it was due to performance, and later discovering the preference of the principal for another propagator of ‘the true faith’. I have witnessed employees in one of Pakistan’s leading establishments in the 90s (it is thankfully defunct today) who – despite being MBA, BBA, M.Com and MSc holders – refused to share a table with a fellow Christian during lunch. I was that Christian employee. In fact, I have seen discrimination of the highest degree in our very own bastion of hospitality to foreigners: Jinnah Terminal. I was returning from Dubai to be with my father for Christmas, and a fellow passenger who is also a Christian was carrying a bottle of Chivas Regal for his father, whose 70th birthday was that weekend. The customs official who happened to stop the passenger did not take the bottle away because it was illegal to bring into Pakistan. Instead, his words were: ‘le ja bottle ja kar andar rakh de, yeh Issai log Pakistan mai bas yehi kaam karte hain, sharab pee kar tamasha kharra karna in ki aadat hai.’ In translation: ‘take this bottle away and keep it in the cupboard, this is the only thing Christians in Pakistan know to do, drinking alcohol and making a scene everywhere is their habit.’

If we are to recognize and own this discrimination in order to wipe it out, we have to start being honest with ourselves. Step one: please let’s not console with ourselves with the idea that we have only to improve to the lot of the ‘poor Christian jamadaar’.

No, Pakistan. The discrimination affects you. And it affects me, a Christian Pakistani whose identity ends there.

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http://www.thefridaytimes.com/beta2/tft/blog.php?blogstory=2