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BOARDING SCHOOL and a middle class kid

BOARDING SCHOOL and a middle class kid

My parents loved me beyond belief, beyond explanation. Their lives revolved around children (us). They scarified career, money comforts etc for our education and success.

Still, all this was within the confines of a traditional Indian middle class family with strict morals & codes of conduct. Right from how many movies per year, to prayer / bhajan in the evenings, to “..study well , else you’ll be grazing bufallaoes ..”, to when to be back home daily (before 9.00 …10.00 p.m etc), a lot was regulated, for BOYS & girls.

Cigarette, Tambacco, drinks were totally taboo. Even older “uncles” who consumed these were branded as little “wayward” !! I knew cigarettes were injurious to heath, without any statutory warning because, dad would have beaten me well as he loved me so much

Home and school were safest for kids. Permitted “Outside” was Tuition class, Sports, cinema with Parents or good “reliable” friends, training etc ! Period ! Parents were Gods. Next were teachers.

In such a setting, one of the utmost fears fed to me was, “…IF you misbehave, we will send you to a STRICT boarding school, with a bodybuilder warden !! 😦 😦 …” There were some boarding schools famous for this (mostly fanned by tales and anecdotal evidence as no photos, phones etc existed those days)

When I moved to college, with all hopes and aspirations, I had to move out of town, go to a city / new place, start preparing for professional entrance exams and also ….also…..move into a HOSTEL !!!! (ouch)

I was mentally prepared for everything else, but not for HOSTEL …..

Still let me tell you, as most of you would vouch, just as a family gave me all the love and all the character, HOSTEL gave me all the courage and healthy suspicion to handle the world (except marriage !! 🙂

HOSTEL was far more fun than I imagined
HOSTEL lead to life long friendships that I could not have achieved otherwise
HOSTEL taught me to start managing my life myself. I got way more independent, way more organized, right from daily activities, to thinking on my feet. If I got cranky I had to calm down myself. Mother didn’t wake me up, alarm did, and If I didn’t wake up on time, there was NO breakfast.
Hostel taught me how to gauge ppl , though I’m no master at it, it gave me whatever skills I have.
Hostel taught me how manage a variety of foods and cultures
Hostel taught me that India has diversity and variety and diversity is NOT to be feared
Hostel taught me a lot of good and bad, but also made me “understand” and “appreciate” my parents much more
HOSTEL was much more good that I would have imagined when I was eight or ten or fourteen years old

I know some kids have got distracted , some have gotten into bad company, some have fallen during their boarding school / HOSTEL stints, but a decent HOSTEL / B School combined with “some” inner qualities have yielded better results than just sitting at home
but then I came out of HOSTEL and got into marriage !! 🙂 🙂 A Marriage that no one warned me about !!

#politicos #feminists #Nirav and fake case filers LOOT India. #Honest Hardworking #Indian #MEN pick up the bill

HC quashes dowry case against NRI brothers. Indian courts can’t hear matter if demand made abroad

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HC quashes dowry case against NRI brothers

Says Indian courts can’t hear the matter if demand for money is made abroad


Posted at: Feb 15, 2018, 1:23 AM; last updated: Feb 15, 2018, 1:23 AM (IST)

Saurabh Malik

Tribune News Service

Chandigarh, February 14

The Punjab and Haryana High Court has ruled that dowry demand raised abroad can’t be tried by courts in India. The HC quashed a dowry harassment case against two NRI brothers, accused of instigating their brother to such a demand.

“In the instant case, even if there was instigation at the behest of the petitioners for demand of Rs 5 lakh from the complainant, the demand was raised outside the territorial jurisdiction of Bathinda. Therefore, the courts are not competent to entertain the matter,” Justice Jaishree Thakur ruled.

Justice Thakur said specific role, injury, dowry demand, entrustment of dowry articles, “istridhan” or its misappropriation was not attributed to the petitioners. “It is apparently clear that the FIR has been registered against the petitioners only to harass the family,” the judge added.

The ruling came on a bunch of two petitions filed against Punjab and other respondents by Rajesh Kumar Gupta and Rakesh Kumar Gupta through counsel RS Bajaj. They were seeking the quashing of an FIR dated July 14, 2012, registered at Kahnwan police station in Pathankot district under Sections 406, 498-A, 420 and 34 of the IPC. Directions were also sought for quashing all consequential proceedings. Bajaj told Justice Thakur’s Bench that the petitioners’ brother and the complainant got married in 2006. Subsequently, the parties resided together in England. No complaint was made during that time before the authorities there or during their annual visits to India. A perusal of the FIR also did not reveal that the petitioners attended the marriage ceremony; or that there was any entrustment of dowry articles.

After hearing Bajaj and going through the documents, Justice Thakur referred to the reply filed in the matter before observing that the petitioners were permanent residents of England and residing separately at a distance of 175 km from the complainant’s matrimonial home. “Even if, for the sake of argument, it is taken into account that the petitioners instigated their brother to raise a demand of Rs 5 lakh from the complainant, it was a demand that was raised in England, outside the territorial jurisdiction of the courts in Bathinda. Therefore, the offence, if any, had been committed in England,” Justice Thakur added.

Referring to a similar case before the Supreme Court, she said the parties were residing in Canada, but the FIR was registered in Jalandhar, alleging demand of dowry and misappropriation of dowry articles. “The proceedings were quashed, holding that the Jalandhar court would have no jurisdiction to entertain the matter,” she concluded.